How to Help Children Like a Babysitter
At Sitters, whenever you make a booking with a babysitter who is new to your children, we recommend that you tag on an additional half hour before you leave to help you, the children, and the babysitter all become accustomed to the set-up without making for overly long goodbyes - which can make things harder for children.
However, there are some important steps both you and your babysitter themselves can take to help your child feel comfortable, secure, and to like their babysitter.
Children are, of course, individuals and unique in the same way as adults. Therefore these suggestions are just guidelines and will need to be adapted depending on how extrovert or shy your children are.
As a parent time is often short, so when you organised your babysitter your children were unlikely to have been involved. Therefore, it’s important to take a couple of minutes making sure the proper introductions have taken place.
Before the babysitter comes you can tell your child their name, show them a photo of their sitter and perhaps tell them whether they have children of their own. The babysitter themselves should get down to the child’s level and introduce themselves. It can then help to ask a question or two of the child, such as their age, their favourite colour, or what they had for tea.
From here your babysitter will be able to gauge whether the child is ready to lead them off to a game or a story. Children who are shyer will need a little more help transitioning.
In these instances, your experienced babysitter will be able to actively engage with your child and will likely ask for ideas on their favourite games and then start playing!
The babysitter-child relationship is an interesting one. Usually it’s a relatively short window of time in which the two parties can get to know one another. However, it’s vital that the child feels comfortable and secure so they can get off to sleep when necessary.
By gradually engaging the children in games or activities – such as board games, watching their favourite programme, or drawing a picture – and asking questions alongside, the child learns to trust and like the babysitter. Even the shyest will love to know their babysitter is interested in them!
Manage the Goodbyes
When it’s time to leave, the tears and fears can start. It’s important that both you and your babysitter are confident and capable of managing this transition for the child. The babysitter’s role is to stay upbeat, not take the tears personally, and work to distract and re-engage the child.
This is probably the most crucial stage and your children will understand that your babysitter is in control, and they are safe, secure, and cared for.
Be Calm and Relaxed
Both parents and babysitters should aim to be calm and relaxed. Parents need to demonstrate to their little ones that they are confident with the person they are leaving their child with. Whilst babysitters need to demonstrate that they are confident and relaxed. This helps the child to relax too – remembering that children pick up on both verbal and non-verbal clues.
Be Prepared to Offer Space
Sitters babysitters have all worked with children on a daily basis in professional childcare roles, such as childminders and nursery nurses, so they are experts at recognising when they need to be hands on and when they need to give little ones some space. Often children, particularly older ones, simply need to know they're there, and they can call on their sitter when needed. It can be counterproductive to jostle them into a game or activity they are resistant to.
Finally, it’s very important that parents impart any useful information to the babysitter which will help form the relationship. What are their favourite soft toys? What is their normal routine? What are the child’s favourite stories? These small cues will help to ensure your children are at ease and relaxed.
Book a Sitters Babysitter
To ensure your children have a reputable and experienced babysitter, that both they and you love, choose a babysitter from Sitters.
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